When to take the off-road

Getting stuck on one path can make it near impossible to embrace yourself and your life at a particular moment. I’ve gotten stuck numerous times, but one recent memory stands out. For two and a half years, I was set on finding a major publisher for my book, convinced that was the only way it would be successful. I dedicated most of my free time to researching agents and book proposals, query letters and synopses. My life was spent in the pursuit of one restricted road. If I’m honest, my reasons for wanting a publisher were not all well-intentioned. I was desperate for one because I believed I needed a professional to tell me when my book would be ready enough for other eyes to read it. I longed for a publishing house to give me credibility and support, to get my book out into the world in ways I thought I couldn’t achieve on my own. I got stuck on one path because I wasn’t honest with myself and let fear and insecurity dictate the decisions I made.

Have you ever done this?

I told myself it was a dream to be a writer, to have a published book in my hands, and it was. But I’ve been taught by people in my life that there is more than one way to achieve a dream. I spent two and a half years being unwilling to change my plan, and my dream and life suffered as I endlessly endeavored to bring about this goal that I had turned into a sentence. While embracing a dream or simply living life, we have to be open to the unexpected off-roads that lead to new terrain. Being malleable to changes that will alter the vision we may have had our hearts set on, and choosing not to let fear have the last word, is a hard lesson to learn, but one that I’ve found to be unbelievably invaluable. It doesn’t matter if the path to your dream is unconventional, as long as it’s sought after with love and persistent hope, it will see light.